Donna

Ngai Takoto, Ngāti Hine, Ngāti Kahu

Donna's Story

Post-natal depression got in the way of Donna caring for her new baby. With the support of whanau, and strategies from her doctor, she learned to deal with her grief and trauma.

It first started when I had my first baby, when I was 16

When I was in labour, the doctors and the nursing staff decided to do a procedure on me. I was quite traumatised for a long time. I had nightmares for a long time.


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Donna
Donna

A massive cloud plummeted all over me and it was not only emotional or psychological, it was physical, as well

I didn’t want to get out of bed. I didn’t want to hold her. I didn’t want to feed her. I didn’t want to do anything and all I did was cry.


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My mother and my older sister were really instrumental in caring for my well-being

They helped me with the baby. They talked to me a lot about things. By the time she was two, I definitely felt more outgoing and more capable of coping.


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I’ve had counselling because I went through enormous grief over the loss of my siblings

The counsellor actually had strategies or methods. They’d use methods to be able to get me to understand why it was that I was experiencing the emotions that I was.


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