As a team-mate

Feeling like they’re part of the team helps people get through tough times

Staying connected with the team and keeping active are two of the best ways to help beat depression and anxiety.

How you can help


You might notice that your team-mate isn’t showing up or isn’t themselves. You might think, “I don’t want to ask, it isn’t my business”. But if you’re worried, it’s a good idea to follow your instinct and talk (kōrero) with them.

We know that being physically active and connecting with others is good for mental health. But often people with depression and anxiety will stop doing the activities that they’re normally involved with. One of the ways you and your team can help is by creating a supportive environment for anyone who is having a rough time, whether it’s through depression, anxiety, grief, job loss or any of the other things that can make life difficult.

Encourage your team-mate to go to practice, games and other activities, even if they aren’t feeling up to it. If they don’t feel like playing, suggest they come and watch or help the team in some other way. Letting them know how the team’s doing is a good way to keep in contact.

Do you need immediate help?


Please take any thoughts (whakaaro) around suicide or self-harm seriously –and it’s okay to talk (kōrero) about it. Don’t leave someone alone if they say they feel unsafe.

If you think someone is having thoughts about hurting or killing themselves urgent help is needed. Emergency teams (called CATT or PES) provide 24 hours a day, 7 days a week assessment and short-term treatment services for people experiencing a serious mental health crisis. This could include safety issues. Contact your local Mental Health Services immediately.

Keeping secrets when it comes to suicide and self-harm can be unhelpful to both you and the person. Talk with someone else or call a helpline to discuss your concerns.

Always ask permission to contact services on a person’s behalf however if you feel they are in immediate danger and they won’t give permission you may need to go against their wishes.

If you think you need specialist advice on how to help, call the Depression Helpline 0800 11 757 or contact your local Mental Health Services.

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What next?

Take a good look around the rest of this website to understand more about depression and anxiety and what can help. Check out the videos of people who share their stories and how they got through.

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