Fia's Story

As an 11-year-old, Fia didn’t know how to cope with the loss of her grandfather and had no-one to turn to. She has shared her experience with her community in the hope it will help others talk about it.

I lost my grandfather. Just losing him, made me feel so alone and I didn’t know how to cope

I think I was caught up in the whirlwind of Fa`a Samoa, not understanding what was going on.

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I felt this emptiness and I couldn’t explain it. I didn’t know what it was

Everything was black. I was eleven. I didn’t want to be here anymore because I felt that he was the only one who truly loved me and looked after me.

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Art, singing, my church group, youth groups; that’s what brought me through

Things improved for me when I spoke about my experiences because I’ve been able to share my story with the youth group.

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When you share your experience, you lighten the load and that’s something that I don’t have to carry anymore

It’s about just knowing there’s brighter options out there. You know, and just being more supportive and understanding and talk to our kids. 

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I’m stronger now, I can speak to my community. There’s always a way through

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